{"id":2887,"date":"2014-02-16T13:57:49","date_gmt":"2014-02-16T21:57:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/?p=2887"},"modified":"2022-06-06T09:45:48","modified_gmt":"2022-06-06T16:45:48","slug":"working-with-difficult-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/working-with-difficult-people\/","title":{"rendered":"Mediating with Genghis Khan: On Working with Difficult People (Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai; Yelu Chucai)"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_2884\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-2884\" style=\"width: 404px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/Genghis-Khan-Field-Museum.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2884\" src=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/Genghis-Khan-Field-Museum-404x400.jpg\" alt=\"Genghis Khan, Field Museum\" width=\"404\" height=\"400\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-2884\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Genghis Khan<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>This post is a tribute to Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai, also known as Yelu Chucai (1190-1240), a man whose work with difficult people, including Genghis Khan, prevented mass genocide in Northern China. Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai was able to be effective because<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00a0He gained Genghis Khan\u2019s trust because of his own integrity and loyalty; and<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0He presented rigorous well thought out analyses of the benefits to the Mongols of discontinuing the practice of genocide.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>From his life we learn that when working with difficult people one must try to simultaneously<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Maintain one&#8217;s own spiritual integrity and presence.\u00a0 This is one&#8217;s main &#8220;calling card&#8221; with even the most difficult people;<\/li>\n<li>Continue to try to meet others, even difficult people, on that level, while recognizing their own integrity and being. This is commonly known as <em>respect.*<\/em><\/li>\n<li>\u00a0At the same time, never forget, realistically, who they are and what they want on an ego or self-centered level.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For people dealing with powerful people, and high-stakes conflict, forgetting any one of these steps can have disastrous results. And they all must occur simultaneously.\u00a0 (See also this <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/SelfandIdentity.pdf\">article<\/a>.) Here are some highlights of\u00a0 Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai&#8217;s life.<\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>The Sacking of Beijing<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>In 1214, after a long war, Genghis Khan sacked the city of Zhongdu (now Beijing). Thousands of people were killed and much of the City was demolished by fire.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_2931\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-2931\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/800px-Bataille_entre_mongols__chinois_1211.jpeg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2931\" src=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/800px-Bataille_entre_mongols__chinois_1211-600x368.jpeg\" alt=\"Bataille_entre_mongols_&amp;_chinois_(1211)\" width=\"600\" height=\"368\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-2931\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">A Battle Between the Chinese and the Mongols, as depicted by &#8221;Jami&#8217; al-tawarikh,&#8221; Rashid al-Din.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai, then a Confucian governmental official, witnessed the carnage.\u00a0\u00a0 Deeply troubled by what he saw, he became a lay disciple of Wan-Sung, a man recognized as one of the leading Chan Buddhist teachers of the time.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">After three years, Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai was said to have attained enlightenment. He was recognized by his teacher, who conferred on him the &#8220;seal of discipleship.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Shortly thereafter, he was summoned by Genghis Khan.<\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>The First Meeting with Genghis Khan<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>At their first meeting, Genghis Khan reminded Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai that, although he was sincized, he was not in fact a Chin, but was instead a member of the royal family of a clan which had battled with the Chin. He appealed to what he assumed would be Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai&#8217;s ethnic hatred of the Chin by saying:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\u201cI have taken revenge for you.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai gave a quintessential Confucian reply:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">&#8220;My father and grandfather have both served the Jin respectfully. How can I, as a subject and a son, be so insincere at heart as to consider my sovereign and my father as enemies?&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">In so doing, he honored his father and his grandfather (who had both served in the Chin dynasty) and his ruler, Genghis himself. However, he specifically declined to treat the Chin as his enemy.\u00a0 He also refused to bond with Genghis Khan on the level of hatred alone.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Genghis Khan was impressed, gave him the nickname \u201cLong Beard\u201d and placed him in his retinue.<\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Work for Genghis Khan<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>Yeh-Lu Ch\u2019u Tsai became Genghis Khan&#8217;s scribe-secretary.\u00a0 He was, effectively, Genghis Khan&#8217;s lawyer, in charge of translating and drafting documents in Chinese.\u00a0 Due to his unique background, as noted by de Rachewiltz, he became, in effect, a mediator between the Mongol and Chinese civilizations. He also practiced divination and astrology for the Khan.<\/p>\n<p>At one point, he is said to have caused the withdrawal of the Mongol army from India by interpreting an omen &#8212; an apparition of a unicorn &#8212; that had supposedly been seen by one of Genghis\u2019 bodyguards. He interpreted the omen as a warning to the Khan to prevent further killing.*<\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Mistakes and Regrets<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>Although he considered himself a Confucian and a Buddhist, Yeh-lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai hoped that Genghis Khan would be persuaded to adopt the Way of the Three Teachings (Buddhism, Taoism and Confucianism), which, according to a syncretist view current at that time, were religions of common origin and benefit to mankind. Accordingly, he helped to facilitate contact between Genghis Khan and a well known Taoist of the time, Ch\u2019ang-Chun. He hoped to enlighten Genghis Khan.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, instead of promoting the harmony Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai had hoped for, Chun used his access to Genghis to gain advantages for his own Taoist sect. His sect ultimately appropriated Buddhist and Confucian temples, and took control of many of the Buddhist clergy. This was one of Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai&#8217;s deepest disappointments.\u00a0 In the Hsi-Yu Lu, he authored an account of the incident in which he sternly rebuked himself publicly<strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong>Working for Ogodei Khan: Preventing Genocide<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>In 1229, after Genghis Khan died, his son Ogodei became the leader of the Mongols. A brutal figure, it was said that Ogodei used to tease Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai by saying<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">&#8220;Are you going to weep for the people again?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>It had been a Mongol practice to annihilate the populations it had conquered. The \u201cconservative\u201d wing of the Mongol court now insisted that Ogodei should annihilate the Chin and turn Northern China into pasture land.<\/p>\n<p>Yeh-lu Ch\u2019u Tsai argued with detailed figures that the Mongols had more to gain by allowing the population to live but by taxing them. His plan worked, and the Mongolian coffers were immensely enriched.<\/p>\n<p>A census was taken shortly after this time; it appears that possibly as many as eight million or more lives were saved. Ogodei appointed Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai the tax collector for China.\u00a0 Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u-Tsai then set about enacting many legal and taxation reforms, including measures to curb the power of the military and the clergy, to try to equalize the crushing tax burden imposed by the Mongols, and others.<\/p>\n<p>Yet Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai also made many enemies, especially among the military.\u00a0 After Ogodei died, he lost authority and died in 1243. An amazing man, in addition to his political activities, Yeh-Lu Ch\u2019u Tsai was also an author, poet and calligrapher.\u00a0 His poetry and calligraphy are still meaningful to many.<\/p>\n<h1><strong>\u00a0Reflections on the Life of Yeh-Lu Chu-Tsai<\/strong><\/h1>\n<figure id=\"attachment_3109\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3109\" style=\"width: 256px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/256px-Yelu_Chu_Cai_-_Guta_Park.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3109 \" src=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/256px-Yelu_Chu_Cai_-_Guta_Park.jpg\" alt=\"By Rrmarcellus (Own work) [CC-BY-SA-3.0\" width=\"256\" height=\"346\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/256px-Yelu_Chu_Cai_-_Guta_Park.jpg 256w, https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/elizabethbadersblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/256px-Yelu_Chu_Cai_-_Guta_Park-110x150.jpg 110w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 256px) 100vw, 256px\" \/><\/a><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-3109\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Statue of Yelu Chucai, Guta Park. (Taken by RMarcellus).<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>The results of Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai&#8217;s interventions were enormous.\u00a0 The nomadic Mongols learned to become rulers, to engage with the people they had conquered.\u00a0 Over time, they were themselves civilized. Civilization was changed, but extended to many more people, and survived.<\/p>\n<p>One of the issues raised by Yeh-Lu Ch\u2019u Tsai\u2019s life is whether he should have chosen to serve at all in the court of a man who had murdered so many people\u00a0 in his thirst for conquest. As it turned out, however, Yeh-lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai was able to save many lives, not by exhorting the Mongols, but by moving them slowly toward civilization. The na\u00efve failure to accurately assess the spiritual development, or lack of spiritual development, of those he was dealing with turned out to be a big mistake.<\/p>\n<p>For example, Yeh-lu Ch\u2019u Tsai overestimated the possibility that Genghis Khan would be capable of appreciating and responding to the Three Jewels of Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism.\u00a0 The mistake was compounded when Yeh-lu Ch\u2019u Tsai also made the mistake of assuming that Chung-un would attempt to be a spokesman not just for his own sect but for Confucians and Buddhists as well.<\/p>\n<p>Yeh-lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai certainly was not the first, nor the last, to naively assume that those reputed to be spiritual &#8220;masters&#8221; were more developed than they appeared, or could be trusted with power. Due to the fact that Yeh-Lu Ch\u2019u Tsai was operating on such a large stage, however,\u00a0 his mistake meant that a man like Chung-un gained control over and harmed other religions.<\/p>\n<p>In contrast, Yeh-lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai countered the thirst for genocide of the \u201cconservative\u201d faction of Ogodei\u2019s court by a realistic, sophisticated and well analyzed appeal to the Mongols\u2019 self-interest. Once the decision was made not to slaughter the people of the Chin dynasty, over time, the Mongols were forced to accommodate themselves to the people. As Yeh-lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai reportedly said,<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\u201cYou can conquer the Chinese by horseback, but you cannot rule them by horseback.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>Over time, the Mongols adapted many features of Chinese culture, including even Buddhism.<\/p>\n<h1><strong>References<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>*For more on the importance of dealing with people in conflict with a combination of respect and objectivity, see Elizabeth&#8217;s award winning <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elizabethbader.com\/SelfandIdentity.pdf\">article<\/a>, pages 210 to 211.<\/p>\n<p>**Although others attribute this to Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai, de Rachewiltz doubts that Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u-Tsai was solely responsible for the Mongol withdrawal. Photo of Genghis Khan from the Field Museum.<\/p>\n<h1><strong>Resources<\/strong><\/h1>\n<p>The principal resources for this article are from Igor de Rachewiltz: Igor de Rachewiltz, &#8216;Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Ts&#8217;ai (1189 -1243), pp. 188-216 in Confucian Personalities, Arthur F. right and Denis Twitchett (eds). 1963. Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Ts&#8217;ai, &#8220;The Hsi-Yu Lu by Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai&#8221; (translated by Igor de Rachewiltz) <cite>Monumenta Serica <\/cite>Vol. 21, (1962), pp. 1-128 Ogodei&#8217;s remark about Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u-Ts&#8217;ai weeping for the people is noted in: Rene Grousset&#8217;s\u00a0 &#8220;Empire des Steppes&#8221; or, in English, &#8220;Empire of the Steppes: A History of Central Asia&#8221; (translated from the French by Naomi Walford) Rutgers University Press 1970.<\/p>\n<!--themify_builder_content-->\n<div id=\"themify_builder_content-2887\" data-postid=\"2887\" class=\"themify_builder_content themify_builder_content-2887 themify_builder tf_clear\">\n    <\/div>\n<!--\/themify_builder_content-->\n\n\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Yeh-Lu Ch&#8217;u Tsai saved millions of lives through his work with difficult people, including Genghis Khan. 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